“Can we get saganaki for the table?”
I said it, almost happily. And out loud even, not just in my head. I am usually not the person who orders for the table. Is it a confidence thing? Or just not knowing, second guessing what people might want? Or someone else beats me to the punch, and takes that chance before me? Or because right now I am watching what I eat and many times those appetizers are the friedest, sauciest, dippingest, most delectable nibbles that I know I struggle to resist?
The other day, as we celebrated a joyful event in the life of my amazing friend Milagros, we ended up around a table at a Greek restaurant. Several people had never eaten Greek food. There were menu questions, unfamiliar words, all kinds of questions and opportunities. (And yes, now I have learned that saganaki is a Greek-American invention, like fortune cookies, etc.)
Saganaki is a guilty pleasure for me. Cheese is a weakness in general. I remembered when I did keto for a while last year I so enjoyed the saganaki at this restaurant (with no pita.) I figured, why not share this deliciousness with people who have never had it before?
So I did it, people shared it, and tried something new. Some people thought it was just ok, others found it the same remarkable experience as I do. All of that is wonderful.
So, thinking back over the list above, what was my hangup before? Probably some of all of them, but mostly lack of confidence gets in my way. I worry what others might think or want, when really I just need to be bold and order and share what I enjoy with others. They can try it or not. In the past, when I haven’t taken the initiative to share, I’ve always felt like it was a missed opportunity to be generous. Those missed chances I wished I had taken leave me feeling smaller.
I want to be the kind of person who orders for the table, at least sometimes. And not to show off or be flashy. I just want to be confident enough to share what I enjoy and stop second guessing myself. I have no problem with the sharing part, and the confidence part is coming along a little more naturally these days.
Now I am wondering…What are some of the things you share with others that may expand their horizons, make shared memories, become new traditions? Not just food…reading, games, media, activities, and more? What are some new ways I can invite others to share life with me? On the flip side, am I open to trying what people want to share with me? What do we have to lose?
No matter what, I am so grateful for celebrations and friends to share them with. Enjoying events and company is so much of what makes life worthwhile.
And cheese makes all of that even better.